What Is Going On???
My heart is truly saddened by the divorce rate in Christian marriages. I will not quote a specific percentage, because the truth is, it should be 0%. As the ‘About’ page states, “God is serious about marriage!”
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone marries the divorced woman commits adultery”,(Matthew 5:32).
We are always to look for reasons to restore the marriage relationship, rather than excuses to leave it.
My question is why are so many Christian marriages failing, if we are supposed to be following the principles of marriage given by God?
Laresia (Reesie) Avery
UNITY MARRIAGE RETREAT
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I believe one reason Christian marriages are failing because we put our trust in man, instead of God who designed marriage. (1) We do this by telling our friends and family about our problems and expect them to give us the solution instead of calling on God for his guidance to our specific situation. We have a God who is very precise about instructions and he knows what it takes to make the marriage work. It’s okay to seek Godly counsel from Godly people, but God is to be our ultimate source of counsel. (2)
We truly mess up when we refuse to acknowledge the “for worse and in sickness and health” portion of our vows, instead we’re stuck on the for better part. Our spouse should be the person we can go to for love and communication, but we also have to establish an intimate relationship with God, personally and as a whole as well. God is the thread that keeps us together. Sometimes, when we live in the “for worse” moment, our focus goes to other resources that potentially lead to other things, like infidelity. Again, none is perfect. Leave room for mistakes and instead of seeking other things as substitutions, seek God for counsel. (3) Okay, perhaps a spouse committed aldultery or maybe the argument is about time with us or finances, which can lead to a trust issue, but can be regained if repentance and forgiveness is sought with sincerity. We do play the “blame game” at times and should learn to point the finger toward ourselves and ask God to help us to be everything we need to be for our spouse. We need to rid ourselves of the “it wasn’t my fault” mentality and take back what Satan desires to destroy and win the victory. It’s not about whose fault it is, it’s about us working a ministry (marriage) in the way that is pleasing to God and completely trusting him to guide us daily. We have to continue to pray and ask God to help us in every area of our lives and know that we married as a whole, but individually, we are accountable to the Lord. It is through a good Christian marriage that the outside world can see the work of God, desire it for themselves, and glorify the Father.
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